Negotiation

Problem solving for mutual benefit.  Using positive language to express opinions.  Accepting change.  Being willing to compromise.

Equality

Acknowledging your rights and those of others.  Valuing the other person’s opinions.  Sharing decision making and influence in the relationship.

Trust

Supporting the other person’s life goals.  Valuing the other person’s feelings friends, and activities.  Showing concern for the other person’s physical and emotional boundaries and desires.  Being honest.

Personal growth

Being supportive and confident in yourself.  Encouraging the other persons individual growth.  Supporting the other persons freedom identity and confidence.

Accountability

Accepting responsibility for your actions.  Acknowledging past use of abuse or violence.  Admitting when you’re wrong.  Acknowledging responsibility for your own health and happiness.

Communication

Speaking and acting so that the person feels safe and comfortable expressing her/himself and doing things.  Willingness to have ope dialogue.  Listening to the other person without judgment.  Expressing how you want to be treated.

Role Modeling

Exhibiting positive behavior and language towards and about others.  Speaking up against damaging or inappropraite language or actions.  Telling others the importance of practicing respect.

Avoiding Violence

Creating personal physical and verbal boundaries for how you want to be treated and how you will treat others.  Not saying or doing things that mauy harm someone.  Asserting your right to be in a non-violent relationship.